Spring is in the air! Birds are singing and flowers blooming. Spring reminds me of love, green grass and beautiful gardens.
It’s been a while since I’ve written. I promised myself to do better. There are no excuses. I often thought to sit down and write, nearly every day as matter of fact. I could say procrastination played a part. Maybe it did a little bit but certainly not for the whole month or more. There were probably a few contributing factors.
There were a couple of times when I thought of a great subject to write about but it turned out to be one I didn't want to publish. Huh? Should that have kept me from doing what I enjoy? Absolutely not! There were moments when I had to honor my reluctance to put pen to paper. Should I have pushed myself? I began to question myself so much that I decided to take a deeper look to see what was really going on with me. I've heard about people having fears of success or of what people think. Didn't think it would bother me much. After all, I wrote about not allowing what others think to stop me from living my life so shouldn't I be aware when I'm being affected by it? I thought so, but let's see, I was getting positive feedback from several folks about my blogs but there were many more that didn't respond at all. Could that be what was going on? Did I view at the silence as being some form of judgment? Umm, it was an interesting thought indeed.
After learning of the death of Whitney Houston I began to experience a disturbance in my spirit. It was such a tragedy, her death touched my soul. A myriad of feelings surfaced with such intensity that I retreated within myself. Motivation and inspiration to write waned and my writing stopped altogether. What the heck was going on? Reading the news, hearing the newscasters comments was depressing. I found myself getting angry with all of the speculation into her death. All the talk about how she got addicted, who could have stopped her, who caused it was too much and it was every where. No escape. Her death brought up many deep feelings for me, I cried a lot and decided not to participate in conversations regarding her death or addiction. I shut down mentally and as a result everything overwhelmed me.
I'm sure this was a huge factor for not writing. It's not comfortable to admit it either. Awkward! I have realized and honor my sensitivity to the pain of others and I've been made aware of how easy it is to judge (misjudge) others. I choose to no longer sit in judgment, it's too hurtful and harmful. This is a characteristic (in some circles it's called a character defect) that doesn't serve me or others in positive ways. Judging others is mean spirited, not beneficial and will stunt a persons growth. It's time for a change.
Each one of us are unique individuals, there is no one like you or me. No one can mimic or do things the way you or I do. I'm the best at being me. You are the best at being you. So when we judge someone we're basing our judgements on our own personal perceptions. We, in that moment, dishonor that persons uniqueness. There's a saying that I love, "Live and Let Live". I meditated on this phrase and have repeated slowly several times. I wanted to grasp the deep meaning behind these simple words. Fully understood, these words can change a life. It did mine. I don't have to be responsible for anyone elses decisions or choices. They get to choose how they live. I choose how I live. My choices will determine my decisions. So what's with all the judging? I can let it all go. I don't know everything and don't claim to. I am relieved of the pressure of thinking I know more about your life than you do, that my decisions for your life is better than yours. Nope. Not for me. Not anymore. Live and Let Live.
Self work & revelation is hard work, awkward, takes commitment, it's not easy and definitely not for wimps. I will say this too, it's worth every minute of it!! The other side is golden. And I'm all the better for it.
"My new favorite word is 'awkward'...The reason we need to be in search of awkward is that awkward is the barrier between us and excellence, between where we are and the remarkable. If "it" were easy, everyone would have done "it" already, and "it" wouldn't be worth the effort." - Seth Godin
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Swoooooosh.....
Wow! What happened? I feel as though I was caught up in a whirlwind. A whirlwind of activities for Christmas, New Year celebrations, my birthday, Martin Luther King celebration and concert and all the other stuff in between. Every day, it seemed, there was something exciting to do, something fantastic. Good times happening yeah! But then, WHAM, I get sick. The flat on my back, can't think, or do anything of any significance other than be sick. Today, however, I'm finally, FINALLY coming out of it and starting to feel more myself. WHEW! what a way to start the new year. But it's all good really. I'm still in the land of the living with things to do, places to go, people to meet.
I am not one to make resolutions or even so-called intentions for the new year. For me, this is a process that occurs many, many times throughout the year. There was a time when I would come up with grandiose resolutions but found they never lasted long. Ever! I would be shy of perfection if I kept my resolutions 100 percent. Fantastic, funny and foolish! If my intent is to live life authentically, I can't do that by telling myself mistruths and setting myself up for the impossible. Even with all my imperfections, I am a perfectly Marsha. No one can be as good as me at being me, perfectly!
Trust me I haven't always felt this way. There was a time that I would compare myself to other people and ask "why can't I be more like" or "if I had what they have then I could ______". It's never, ever good to compare yourself with another. I'm not speaking of admiring others or having mentors. I'm talking about putting yourself down while building others up. Keep it up and you'll get lost within yourself and end up loathing the skin you're in.
In a world that sells images that says "this is what you should look like and if you don't there's something wrong with you", it's hard not to fall for okey doke. Sometimes it may not be so easy to look in the mirror and say I not only like what I see but I love who I am. I affirm acceptance of self, of who I am right now. Even with all the changes that occur in life, I believe it's for a higher purpose. I have decided not to fight change. I'm committed to progressing in life, no more settling. I have coaches and mentors helping me to grow into the fullness of who I am. It's not always easy or pretty but I'm worth it.
Not a resolution but a way of living. Be who you are.
Mary J. Blige says:
So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
No stress through the night, at a time in my life
Ain’t worried about if you feel it
Got my head on straight, I got my mind right
....... my life’s just…..
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine
I am not one to make resolutions or even so-called intentions for the new year. For me, this is a process that occurs many, many times throughout the year. There was a time when I would come up with grandiose resolutions but found they never lasted long. Ever! I would be shy of perfection if I kept my resolutions 100 percent. Fantastic, funny and foolish! If my intent is to live life authentically, I can't do that by telling myself mistruths and setting myself up for the impossible. Even with all my imperfections, I am a perfectly Marsha. No one can be as good as me at being me, perfectly!
Trust me I haven't always felt this way. There was a time that I would compare myself to other people and ask "why can't I be more like" or "if I had what they have then I could ______". It's never, ever good to compare yourself with another. I'm not speaking of admiring others or having mentors. I'm talking about putting yourself down while building others up. Keep it up and you'll get lost within yourself and end up loathing the skin you're in.
In a world that sells images that says "this is what you should look like and if you don't there's something wrong with you", it's hard not to fall for okey doke. Sometimes it may not be so easy to look in the mirror and say I not only like what I see but I love who I am. I affirm acceptance of self, of who I am right now. Even with all the changes that occur in life, I believe it's for a higher purpose. I have decided not to fight change. I'm committed to progressing in life, no more settling. I have coaches and mentors helping me to grow into the fullness of who I am. It's not always easy or pretty but I'm worth it.
Not a resolution but a way of living. Be who you are.
Mary J. Blige says:
So I like what I see when I’m looking at me
When I’m walking past the mirror
No stress through the night, at a time in my life
Ain’t worried about if you feel it
Got my head on straight, I got my mind right
....... my life’s just…..
Fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine
Thursday, December 22, 2011
A Rising Star
In order to be promoted to the next level of living there must be a pruning, a change, if you will, in one’s life. You cannot remain in the same space and grow at the same time. I don’t mean physically necessarily but emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually. The pruning that takes place could involve a relationship or two or six, a job or other unnecessaries.
The most beautiful gardens are weeded and pruned on occasion. The gardener knows that weeds will choke the life out of the beauty that lies therein. She also knows that without pruning there will be excess foliage and overcrowding. In order to be healthy and whole the plant life will need trimming to cut away the unneeded in order to grow to a full and vibrant heliotrope garden.
The same philosophy applies to the gardens of our lives. The question is what am I willing to give up in order to live the life I’ve dreamed of? Or let go of in order to start living my dreams? Am I courageous enough to start pruning the excess from my life? How about you?
Do you remember your dreams? Was your dream to become a fashionista? Open a vintage clothes and accessories store? Become a caregiver? Write a book? Or some other great endeavor? How about starting now? How about moving toward awakening and giving birth to your heartfelt desires? It’s time to bring your dream to life. It's not too late!
I love this: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12.
I’m in the process of shaking the dust off a few of my dreams.
My world is expanding, that is a definite. What am I willing to let go of? To my relief, I found that I don’t need to have all the answers right now. Someone much smarter than me said “just start”. Wow, what a concept! That’s all I needed to do, Start!
I’m being molded and shaped into a more beautiful, valued woman with a purpose. All I needed was a catalyst to motivate and inspire me to make a change. Many years ago while in a very volatile and toxic relationship, a few words spoken to me was just what I needed to inspire me to make a major change in my life. Those words saved my life. I left that relationship with a determination to do better for myself. And I did, but not right away, more on that in a later blog, stay tuned. (smile)
I feel the same determination about the change of direction in my life today. So, what’s holding me back? What do I think I lack? What is the missing link? These are questions only I can answer. Maybe there’s nothing missing or lacking. It could be just the voice of resistance. The voice that says, you’re too old, not smart enough, not pretty enough, who do you think you are anyway or other such negative statements. Don’t listen! I matter! You matter!
So again, I ask myself what am I willing to give up to enable me to rise higher? I don’t know the full extent of the answer but I can “just start” with the obvious: relationships. Next I’ll look at excess. Excess stuff that no longer serves me, stuff that doesn’t honor the newness of me.
You see:
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
(excerpt from Natasha Bedingfield’s song, Unwritten)
The most beautiful gardens are weeded and pruned on occasion. The gardener knows that weeds will choke the life out of the beauty that lies therein. She also knows that without pruning there will be excess foliage and overcrowding. In order to be healthy and whole the plant life will need trimming to cut away the unneeded in order to grow to a full and vibrant heliotrope garden.
The same philosophy applies to the gardens of our lives. The question is what am I willing to give up in order to live the life I’ve dreamed of? Or let go of in order to start living my dreams? Am I courageous enough to start pruning the excess from my life? How about you?
Do you remember your dreams? Was your dream to become a fashionista? Open a vintage clothes and accessories store? Become a caregiver? Write a book? Or some other great endeavor? How about starting now? How about moving toward awakening and giving birth to your heartfelt desires? It’s time to bring your dream to life. It's not too late!
I love this: “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12.
I’m in the process of shaking the dust off a few of my dreams.
My world is expanding, that is a definite. What am I willing to let go of? To my relief, I found that I don’t need to have all the answers right now. Someone much smarter than me said “just start”. Wow, what a concept! That’s all I needed to do, Start!
I’m being molded and shaped into a more beautiful, valued woman with a purpose. All I needed was a catalyst to motivate and inspire me to make a change. Many years ago while in a very volatile and toxic relationship, a few words spoken to me was just what I needed to inspire me to make a major change in my life. Those words saved my life. I left that relationship with a determination to do better for myself. And I did, but not right away, more on that in a later blog, stay tuned. (smile)
I feel the same determination about the change of direction in my life today. So, what’s holding me back? What do I think I lack? What is the missing link? These are questions only I can answer. Maybe there’s nothing missing or lacking. It could be just the voice of resistance. The voice that says, you’re too old, not smart enough, not pretty enough, who do you think you are anyway or other such negative statements. Don’t listen! I matter! You matter!
So again, I ask myself what am I willing to give up to enable me to rise higher? I don’t know the full extent of the answer but I can “just start” with the obvious: relationships. Next I’ll look at excess. Excess stuff that no longer serves me, stuff that doesn’t honor the newness of me.
You see:
Staring at the blank page before you
Open up the dirty window
Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find
Reaching for something in the distance
So close you can almost taste it
Release your inhibitions
Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in
No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten
(excerpt from Natasha Bedingfield’s song, Unwritten)
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